When it came time to make requests for fourth grade, I asked my kids if they wanted to be in the same classroom. It was nice for me in regards to homework and field trips to have them in the same classroom, but this was their school experience, not mine. My kids were both academically strong and the choices for fourth grade teachers at our school were good. My daughter decided she wanted to be in a class by herself and with it being okay with my son, we requested separate teachers. It was strange, they had been together since pre-school. However, it was the best thing that could have happened.
My son, even though very bright had difficulties with organization. He relied on his sister frequently for homework assignments. My kids were also different in their strenths and interests and we decided it was a good year to try separate classrooms. One of the fourth grade teachers was excellent in teaching science and math, while the other was strong in writing. My son chose the science and math teacher and my daughter requested the teacher that excelled in writing. It was the best decision we ever made. My son worked hard on becoming organized. I purchased an expandable file notebook to help him keep his papers organized. He was able to be himself in the classroom and not be in the shadow of his sister. This ended up being his favorite teacher and school year.
My daughter also did very well. Without her brother in the classroom, she worked on building her friendships. Academically and socially, it was the best decision that we made.
My kids are now in the sixth grade. They get along, but they still have their moments. They continued to request different teachers for fifth and sixth grade, which I can now say I am glad. My son still loves playing football and my daughter now plays volleyball. I continue to work hard to keep the lines of communication open and to make sure my kids know how much they are loved. I know I am still over protective. I make it a point to get to know my kid’s friends and their parents. Life can be challenging, knowing when to let go and allowing your kids to learn from their mistakes. I guess that is all a part of growing up…
